Finn & Rebecca

Finn & Rebecca

Friday, February 11, 2011

Letter to our donor

Dear Donor angel

I wanted to write you a letter to express just how grateful we are to you for the incredible gift you are giving to us – a chance at finally, possibly having our baby.

Our journey to this point has been long and difficult and we are emotionally weary after all the heartache and loss. We have been trying to have a baby for 13 years now, since we got married when I was 25. I had severe endometriosis, severe pelvic scarring and my tubes are badly damaged and I was told at the age of 28 after a laparotomy that it was unlikely I would ever fall pregnant naturally. After further surgeries, we tried various fertility treatments before deciding to try naturally again. This lead to an ectopic pregnancy which we only realised when it ruptured while we were on holiday in Etosha, Namibia and I very nearly died.
We had another natural ectopic pregnancy a year later. This was devastating. So close, but the baby was in the wrong place and I had to undergo surgery again to have it removed. After a break, we started with IVF treatments. The first one resulted in a pregnancy, but it was not to be and I miscarried. The next 4 IVF’s all resulted in cancelled cycles as our embryos were not making it past 4 days. Our final attempt with IVF 6 was also a negative.
Not only am I a poor responder to IVF drugs but after so many years of trying, my egg quality is now questionable at the age of 38. Our only hope is now through a donor.

Each time, we gather up new hope and keep on going and this time, because of your special gift of donated ova, we will hopefully and finally welcome the little soul we have been waiting for, for the last 13 years.

We are so grateful for your courage and generosity to give of yourself to us by going through this process with such grace.
We will treasure and love this baby should we be successful this cycle, with all our love, forever.

We pray we will be blessed and we ask that you are too, always.

Thank you


  1. Beautiful! I remember feeling the same way, so much love and appreciation. I am so hoping this is the one for you.

  2. oohhh..nnoo..that brought a tear to my eyes. I am previous donor and I always hoped I would bring a couple some joy. Now, i really feel good about my decision back then.
    Wishing you all the best and I hope your dreams are fulfilled....always remember that your little waiting soul chooses matter. It is just waiting for the right time...

    Love, light and divine blessings

  3. Beautifully put, our Cammy. I often wonder if these women ever fully realise how much their unselfhis actions mean to us...

  4. Hope that your Donor is your best ally in the IF battle and that your dream comes true v. v. soon !

  5. Oh I love this...

  6. Absolutely touching... I'm so glad I've found your blog. I'm about to embark on the journey you're already on. I'm cheering you on from the sidelines and hoping in highest hope that your one journey ends here and a new one begins.
    Much love and light

  7. Been reading through your journey, and am so glad that it has had a happy ending, your twins are gorgeous!